Being a #mamionthemove requires having a great support system. I am blessed to have Alejandro as part of that support system. From the start of our relationship, I told him I had high professional aspirations. I started my doctoral program the weekend after we got married. The road has been bumpy, but I have to say having Alejandro by my side supporting my professional, academic, and personal paths has been a blessing. Having been raised by a widowed mother, I highly value having a partner after seeing my mother struggle but persist.
Before becoming engaged, I was clear I would not be staying home with our children. Additionally, after learning my father passed quite suddenly, continuing to work became essential because who knows? Maybe I will need to ensure I have a professional life to speak of should my and my family’s life depend on it. Then…Isabel was born. The post-partum depression and the momma bear instinct born along with her were strong in me. I started to second guess leaving my baby. My tribe came through though, led in part by Alejandro. He told me to try, Isabel would be ok. His support was imperative. I continue to grow professionally and as a Mami and I can honestly say life without this dadda would definitely stifle my movement.
To the Mamis out there who may be without a partner… my maternal abuelita was my mother’s most constant and stable support. Cousins, aunts, and uncles came through for us as well. Support can take many different shapes, allow yourself to be supported and to finally accept that help you’ve been offered many times. We can’t and shouldn’t do life alone.
Alejandro, gracias for showing our babies an example of a loving and supportive partnership. Happy Father’s Day.
That’s right! As Mayra said, it takes a village to raise a child and pursue your career. We need all the help we can get when we have a full-time job at the office and at home (that’s two full-time jobs, if you’re counting!). That is one of the reasons I am so grateful for the support of my husband, Philip.
For us, many life events were on hold until we graduated and earned our graduate degrees. As a result, we did not begin to really begin “adulting” until my first year on the tenure track. We were engaged my first year on the tenure track and married my second year. I was a pregnant Mami searching for our first house during year three, and baby arrived year four. The fifth year consisted of juggling childcare and making a strong push with my research agenda. It is because Philip picked up the slack when I needed to attend conferences or took the night shift when I had an early morning meeting that I was able to meet (and exceed!) expectations and earn tenure. He has supported my career ambitions, and for that, I am thankful. Happy Father’s Day, Philip!
It’s important to note that just as a “Guru Mentor” fails to exist, so does an all-encompassing “Guru Supporter.” We have different needs and rely on different individuals to help us achieve our goals. Now might be a good time to take stock of your personal and professional needs. For example, what is your dream job? What helps you maintain your physical well-being and mental health? By exploring your needs, you can identify areas to address (find support) and even find comfort in knowing you have supporters already rallying around you!
We also want to hear from you! Who are your biggest cheerleaders and supporters? Who has helped you arrive at where you are today? Where do you need to find some assistance or guidance? Please comment below or send us a message. We would love to hear from you!